Worry Is A Thief

How does one know if they are delusional or not?  That has been my question to myself for a while now.  I’m fortunate in that I see a highly recommended psychologist and so when I have a question like this, I can discuss it in my session and get an educated answer.  Thankfully, I’ve been reassured that I am neither delusional nor am I crazy. However, the question continues to hover around in my thoughts, which brings me to the question, how many people really worry about this?  

Do you know a worrier, aka a worry wart?  Maybe it’s one of your parents, a grandparent, a child, or maybe a friend. The known worry wart in my life was my maternal grandmother, and everyone mocked her for it.  (Lovingly mocked, but mocked non the less). I never thought anything of it, only thinking that she must worry about everyone because she was so loving and cared so deeply.  So does it go without saying then, that those that worry are the only ones that care? NO, I know that’s not true. So what drives the worrier to worry?  

Some say worrying drives control issues, while others say worrying is a sign of insecurity.  There is research to suggest worrying is genetic, and research showing people who grew up with an inattentive mother tend to be worriers, however further research also suggests the over attentive mother will raise a worrier as well.  One thing for certain is that being a worry wart is not only stressful on one’s mental being, but has negative effects on one’s physical health as well.  

I am a worrier.  I’m told my worrying is probably part genetics (my grandmother), but largely due to my insecure self thinking I cause problems or I haven’t done enough.  In other words, I am one that thinks I cause bad things to happen. Now where does THAT worry come from?  

What is important, I think, is for you to recognize that if you are indeed a worrier, and you want to overcome your worry, you must find where it starts.  

It’s no different than a leaky roof.  You can put a bucket down to catch the drips.  However, you can’t stop the water damage until you find and fix the leak.  

You might find that one of your parents personality flaws caused you issues, or perhaps the way that one kid or even a teacher talked to you at school so many years ago is the driving force.  Maybe one person, one time, said or did something to you that you’ve never gotten over. No one said this self exploration and self discovery was going to be easy, but I believe it’s necessary if we want to live free.  

Worriers know that worrying won’t change anything, but getting to the root of the worry could be a life changer.  

Don’t let the worry take time from you.  Time is one thing that none of us can control, and our time is limited.  Worry is a thief and worrying about tomorrow only steals precious time from today. Especially since we never know when our tomorrow won’t come.  

Published by Dazedmother

I'm a middle aged working woman. I have raised four boys of which my baby is 17. Motherhood began at age 17 for me. For 30 years every choice I've made was as a mother. This past year, two of my sons have decided life is better without me. I'm a mom, a grandma, a wife that was divorced and now remarried. Here I am, still trying to figure out this thing called life.

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