The Art of Being Nice – subjective?

My psychologist told me a while back that “being nice” has many different definitions depending on who you ask.  In other words, what you think is being nice may seem like nothing compared to the next person.  She advised me to be aware that everyone has the choice to be nice or not to be.Continue reading “The Art of Being Nice – subjective?”

I Know I Did All I Could

Hi son, how are things? It’s been a long time since we’ve spoken, in fact soon it will be a year. Sometimes I think I should contact you, but then I remember you telling the world I’m a crazy bitch, and you telling your little brother you would beat his ass…and I realize you’re notContinue reading “I Know I Did All I Could”

Happy New Year Grandson

Good morning Bubba. How did you sleep? Have you decided what you will play today? Did you stay up late on New Years Eve? Did you have a party? Treats? I miss you so much Bubba. I can’t believe that soon it will be a year since your parents have let us see each other.Continue reading “Happy New Year Grandson”

Who’s Job Is It Anyway?

When there is a family feud, or family estrangement of any kind, who should make the first move? Not all that long ago my husband was at odds with his parents which sadly was all because of misunderstandings due to lack of communication.(thankfully all put behind them) At Christmas time I would tell him heContinue reading “Who’s Job Is It Anyway?”

Respectful Distance

I was expecting this Christmas to be horrible. I cried, I panicked, I was angry…and to my surprise, our Christmas celebration was probably one of my best ever. What happens to us at holiday time when we have lost members of our family due to a family feud or estrangement? I was so convinced thatContinue reading “Respectful Distance”

Good Days and Bad Days-

I need to find PEACE. I have been so bitter lately, and it’s exhausting.  The closer it gets to Christmas, the sadder and more bitter I am. My heart aches each and every day. Half of me thinks about reaching out to them, and the other half knows that if I do I am onlyContinue reading “Good Days and Bad Days-“

One Day You’ll Find Out the Truth

Hello Bubba. How are you today? Have you been having a good week? How is daycare going? Are you making new friends? What is your best friends name? What do you like to do at daycare? Do you have a new favorite toy? I was at the Harley store the other day. They have anContinue reading “One Day You’ll Find Out the Truth”

Good Morning Son

I’m writing to tell you I will never forgive you for taking my Grandschildren away from me.  I have put up with your chronic lying, your never ending manipulating, your obvious exaggerating, your passing the buck, and your running away for 20 plus years, this is the last time.  You have put our family throughContinue reading “Good Morning Son”

Excuses

It’s extremely frustrating to me when I go online to do a general search for toxic relationships between adult children and their parents.  The majority of the articles I see are written by parents giving estranged parents the advice to take the blame and apologize. WTF are you kidding me???? It pisses me off!!!!!!  Continue reading “Excuses”